My Journey of Overcoming Bullying

Discover the captivating story of Ligia, who endured relentless bullying during her school years. From being mocked for her appearance to facing physical abuse, she felt isolated and helpless. In this inspiring blog post, Ligia shares her transformation from victim to victor and reveals the powerful lesson she learned along the way. Learn how she channeled her energy into academics, gained respect through her achievements, and ultimately found her voice. Join Ligia as she empowers others to focus on what they can control and create a life of self-acceptance and resilience. Say no to bullying and embrace the power within you!

Ligia Costa

10/22/2020

A Tale of Unseen Bullying

Bullying has become a prevalent issue in society, with countless individuals experiencing its devastating effects. Often, we associate bullying with the teenage years, but what if I told you that my own experiences with bullying started long before it became a recognized problem? In this blog post, I want to share my personal journey of enduring bullying during my school years and how I managed to transform from a victim to a victor, discovering the inner strength that lies within all of us.

A Trend That Preceded Its Time

It was in primary school when the trend of bullying began, although I hesitate to call it a "trend" since it was anything but fashionable. No matter how many different schools I attended, each time with new peers, I found myself relentlessly targeted. Even at the tender age of seven, my so-called "friends" took pleasure in making fun of me for trivial things like the car my mum drove. They would go to great lengths to make me cry, finding amusement in my tears. To add to my misery, their older brothers even went as far as threatening me.

The Fragile Years of Adolescence

As I transitioned to secondary school, my self-esteem had reached rock bottom. I exuded an air of fragility that seemed palpable to anyone who came near me. From the ages of 11 to 15, I endured physical beatings from older male students in the school playground, all while my friends and school staff turned a blind eye, unwilling to get involved. I was laughed at for wearing unbranded clothes, for having pale skin, for wearing braces, and even for having acne. The list of reasons seemed endless, and it's no surprise that anxiety started to take hold of me. At the time, I didn't fully understand what I was experiencing or how to cope with it.

A Cry for Help, Met with Silence

In my desperation for protection, I reached out to others, seeking a sense of safety and acceptance. However, I quickly realized that confiding in my friends was futile. They were too afraid to stand up for me, fearing they would become targets as well. Seeking solace from the headteacher proved equally fruitless, as she was fully aware of the situation but chose to turn a blind eye. On the rare occasions when I mustered the courage to ask for help, I was met with dismissive responses, being told to toughen up and endure the torment.

A Beacon of Hope: Education and Self-Respect

Feeling trapped and devoid of options, I realized that the only aspect of my life I could control was my academic journey. I devoted myself to studying with unparalleled determination, aiming to stand out through my achievements and high grades. I sought respect, not through appeasing my bullies, but by becoming an exceptional student. And it worked. I became an A student, garnering recognition and winning prizes in art, literacy, and history. My classmates turned to me for assistance with homework and exams. I had become someone they respected, not someone they mocked.

A Shift in Power: Showing, Not Telling

Gradually, the taunting, teasing, and physical abuse subsided as I began to earn respect for my accomplishments. But I refused to be a people pleaser. I was more than willing to help others, but I held steadfast to my integrity and refused to allow anyone to copy my exams. I gained a reputation for standing up for myself and demonstrating unwavering integrity. The bullies realized that their power over me had diminished. I had transformed from a victim into a victor, all while staying true to myself.

Lessons Learned: Focusing on What We Can Control

This arduous experience taught me a valuable lesson—one that I carry with me to this day: focus your energy on what you can control. We have the power to change our circumstances, but only when we are willing to transform them into our strengths. Rather than conforming to the expectations of my tormentors or futilely attempting to change their opinions of me, I focused on showing them through my actions. I showcased my boundaries, my worth, and my true nature. Today, as a grown woman, I continue to embody this lesson. I don't engage in confrontations or compromise my values for the sake of acceptance.

Embracing Empowerment: Say No to Bullying

My experience has made me unwavering in my commitment to stand against any form of bullying. I refuse to let others endure the pain and anguish that I did. By sharing my story, I hope to inspire and empower others to find their inner strength, show the world their true worth, and say no to bullying. Let us create a society where acceptance, respect, and kindness prevail.

Unleashing the Power Within

My journey from victim to victor was far from easy. It required unwavering determination, resilience, and an unyielding belief in myself. By focusing on what I could control—my academic achievements and personal integrity—I transformed my life and emerged stronger than ever. The scars of bullying may still linger, but they serve as a reminder of the strength and resilience I possess. I urge everyone who reads this to embrace their own power, to show the world who they truly are, and to stand up against bullying in all its forms. Together, we can create a world where every individual is celebrated for their unique qualities, and where no one has to suffer in silence.

Love and healing,

Ligia